CONFIDENCE BUILDING

 

Simple ways to build up confidence in children. Always remember confident children grow to become confident and successful adults.

• Give your child lots of love and attention. Show the child that you are interested in what he is doing. Spend a lot of quality time with each other.
• Respect his individuality. He doesn’t have to think the way you do. If you think he is doing something wrong give him reasons for the same.
• Be very generous in praising your child. When he has done a great job try appreciate the good job done.
• Experiment with a little touches to replace words. Little strokes on the forehead or hands or just sitting close go a long way in introducing touch into your relationship and in building confidence.
• Expose the child to reasons for taking some family decisions and the try and inform them in advance before the incident happens.
• Introduce him to his roots. Relate old family stories and incidences to your child.
• To make your child independent and confident give your child space and don’t try and invade into it.
• Teach him to care for other people and not to belittle people whenever he gets the opportunity to do so.
• Accepting your child’s feelings will help him to respect them too. Accept his apologies and offer your own.
• Jealousy, anger, frustration and resentment should be dealt with not buried. Burying  these feelings will only reduce your child's confidence.
• Recap and reflect on the days events with your child. Read books with story lines to your child starting at a very early age.
• Don’t remove your anger and frustrations on your child.
• Always try and eat together and don’t and don’t ignore your child’s bad table manners.
• Help to boost your child’s self confidence.
• Communicate with your child time and time again. A communication gap creates a lot of misunderstandings.
• Don’t ever compare. Every child has his own uniqueness and positive qualities. Try and get him over his negative qualities and grow up to become a confident human being.
• Love your child the way he is. Don’t push a child to do too much too soon. Too much pressure may make him retaliate.
• Make clear simple and consistent rules. Stick to them and see to it that your children also stick to them.
• Trust your child and help him build his inner strength and confidence. Teach him to trust his instincts.
• When in trouble help him to get out of it and don’t criticize him.
• Watch his friends. As the company so the color.
• Expose your child to spirituality. Spirituality goes a long way in building a child's confidence.
• Try and develop a good reading habit at a very young age.
• Don’t complain about your child’s school in front of him. He will loose his confidence in his school.Always maintain a good relationship with his school teacher.
• Respond sensitively to his failures. Failure is always a stepping stone to success.
• Involve him in your social gatherings.
• Don’t have unrealistic expectations from him.

          Remember that building confidence in your child should be started at an early age. A good start is almost like half done.